V is for Vampire – Who’s Stealing Your Energy?

Helaine Z. Harris

Excerpt  from  “Are You In Love With a Vampire? Healing the Relationship Drain Game

 From the popular Anne Rice novels to youthful Goth parties, vampires are everywhere these days. Yet you may not be aware of the real vampires in your life: the subtle yet damaging people I call “relationship vampires.”

Rather than feeding on blood, relationship vampires fill up their deep well of emptiness by draining their victims: lovers, friends, spouses, siblings, parents or even co-workers. A relationship with a vampire leaves the other person emotionally, physically and sometimes financially drained. Often the victim, in turn, replenishes his energy by draining others. Continue reading »

Feminine Power–The Art of Surrender

Helaine Harris M.A., M.F.T.

To many, feminine power–the art of surrender, may appear to be a paradox. I have learned that there is often truth in paradox. When one surrenders from a place of love, it is an act of great power. Even though men such as Jesus, Moses, and Gandhi, have surrendered to the will of God, the act of surrender in both men and women comes from the inner feminine aspect. What is the power of surrender? Why is it important? What is necessary to accomplish it ? How is the sexual arena especially important? Continue reading »

Stress Success Quickies

by Helaine Z. Harris, MA, MFT

Doesn’t Stress Success seem like an oxymoron to you? It sure did to me, at first!

Keeping up with modern life is often complicated by the very technological advances and other conveniences that are meant to streamline our day, often creating even more havoc than we had before. We have the pressure of a tumultuous economy, and with the stock market and housing prices dropping, the stress factor has been increasing for many. It seems like stress has become a way of life. It is true that in small doses stress can motivate you and help you perform under pressure such as preparing for a presentation or studying for exams, however on a long-term basis, it creates a multitude of problems. Continue reading »

Does your Therapist Listen with her Soul?

Listen, my child.
Listen, with your heart
And you shall hear their feelings
And the words they never dared to speak.
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